There are two ways that I text people: Either I’ll get back to you in three years, or I’ll write you a 15 paragraph message immediately after you text me.
There really is no in-between.
For example, once, when the guy did not answer me, I sent him the knife emoji several times in a row until he had to acknowledge my presence. I thought it was fun and flirty, but apparently it was just terrifying and a “red flag”.
What I’m saying is this: I’m an awful flirtatious text. (I think I just made up that word. Can we put it in the dictionary?)
If you forget to answer for several days, or send a text message to your crush the whole story of your life after he just said “hey” so I’m sorry to tell you, but you could be bad at texting too.
Here are nine signs that you are bad texting, and his ruin your love life.
1. You wait too long to respond
Have you ever had a text for yourself “What are you doing tonight?” and then, you answer two weeks later?
Yeah, “tonight” came and went then. And he probably doesn’t need to hear what you ended up doing two weeks ago.
Dating is all about timing and momentum. If you let a guy hang for too long, his attention is bound to go elsewhere, and your conversation probably won’t go … anywhere.
It’s always best to get back to someone in a few hours to keep the conversation going and to show the person you’re dating that you’re still interested. Otherwise, in that constant state of paranoia we all live in, he might think he was a ghost.
2. You forget to answer completely
(And then you lie about it.)
You know this one. The old man “Sorry, I didn’t see that!” excuse. Or better yet, the “Oh my god, I thought I answered!” text.
Yeah, we all know you’re lying, so you might as well say frankly.
If you want to have a real relationship with someone, you have to react quickly.
Or, if you’re one of those people who knows you are actually texting bad, tell the person you’re dating. Say you’d rather talk on the phone or meet in person.
Honesty is always the best relationship (and texting) policy.
3. You punctuate too much
Just to let you know, exclamation marks are for fools. I can always tell someone is spiraling or about to have a nervous breakdown by the number of exclamation marks they use.
“I’m fine thank you!!!!”
If someone writes this you can tell they are not doing very well. They are probably on their way to a mental institution, and their phone is about to be confiscated.
Also remove periods, semicolons and other overly formal elements of grammar. You are supposed to appear fun and flirty when texting someone you love, not like someone showing their knowledge of the MLA format.
Unless you’re playing the grammar police role, don’t punctuate too much.
4. You write him a novel
When it comes to texting, less is more. Leave a little bit of mystery for when you actually meet in person.
While I think pulling out paragraphs can sometimes show my personality and create a sense of coziness with a guy, it can also make me over-available and a little desperate – things I certainly don’t try to sound like on a day out. meet.
So when texting your lover, don’t ignore him (it’s another bad habit of texting), but also, don’t tell him about your life. You can tell him that in person … on date five or something.
5. You use too many emojis
You are not a child, so you don’t have to end each sentence with a smiley face.
I’ll just say it: emojis are immature. In real life, imagine if you ended each sentence with a wink or with a super cheesy slogan. This is how we constantly use emojis while texting.
If you’re asking a guy if he wants brunch, you don’t need to include the egg emoji at the end of your text. He knows what types of food will be served at brunch. I promise.
Too frequent use of emojis doesn’t scream “responsible adult ready for a real relationship.” It’s more like a kindergarten showing off her artistic skills.
6. You say too little
If you respond to a text by simply saying “OK” then you are a real monster. It’s like, are you mad at me? What did I do wrong?
While you don’t want to share too much or be too available when texting, if you say too little, you seem disinterested and, well, cold.
I texted guys where I literally felt like I was pulling my teeth out for them to talk to me. It was impossible for me to tell if they were bad texts, or if they were just trying to play cool.
Either way, if you’re texting someone, at least give them something to work with if you’re interested. Otherwise, you might just want to lay off the phone in general.
7. You leave your reading receipts activated
My mom has her reading receipts, and every time she reads a text from me and doesn’t respond, I feel like a guy is ghosting me.
Leaving your read receipts on is an incredible power move, and I admire anyone who claims that kind of dominance and trust in the relationship, but also, DAMN, it’s mean. Showing someone that you are reading their text, but just not responding is cold.
I am considering having your receipts read on bad texting behavior as this can lead to a lot of insecurity and unnecessary paranoia when dating. So turn them off, for the good of all.
Can you hear me, mom?
8. You only send them drunk text messages
Drunk texts are ALWAYS a bad look. Do not do it.
In fact, there are apps, like the one called In drunk mode, It’s okay prevent you from texting while intoxicated. For example, drunk mode will actually lock your phone for a while (like when you plan to hit the bar), and you have to solve some elaborate math problems in order to unlock your phone again.
That way, texting your crush after several vodka sodas is nearly impossible, and you can save yourself the embarrassment of telling them how much you love them, want to marry them, and have kids.
If you exhibit any of these texting behaviors then you might be a bad texter. Don’t worry, though. There is hope for you. You can always start talking on the phone.
Or here’s a breakthrough idea: Maybe start spending time in person with the people you’re dating.